Rebuilding Optimism

Pessimism, both experienced by individuals or groups, must overcome. However, the firmness needed in the limit of a psychiatric problem, because pessimism awakened from the experience and we can not change things that have happened. Some there are things that might be done to rebuild our optimism:


1. Find positive things from the experience of the past, any as its bitter that experience. In failure, even though there are small successes is one slip, try and find success is grateful existence. This effort will treat at least some of the feelings of suffering that we destroyed. "But somehow I have failed" Discard far mind, because these thoughts will not help us in God's grace to reach the next. God will only add his favor on the people who want to give him the favor, although it slightly.
2. Up return target that we want to achieve. Do not make a habit of over-target. We must indeed optimistic, but we also need the ability to measure yourself. We also need to examine more charming way what we might do to achieve a certain target. The way the Iraqi agresor / imperialist U.S. may be used as an example. From the beginning of the Iraq says will not win in battle. But they only said "the U.S. will face difficulties when dealing with the army and the Iraqi people's resistance." Iraq also count in the field where it can provide a fierce resistance against the agresor / colonists are. Iraq may try to win the battle field in the opinion and the diplomatic world. This is an example of how one should define the target and the ability to see the limitations.

3. Broken into large target targets small success can be seen immediately. Often there are useful to see the success of short-term success of a long-term target. This will be the enthusiasm and optimism in ourselves. Of course we must continue to give what we get from achievements targets are small. Never thought in the heart, "Ah like this new, our target is still far away." This attitude is not to feel optimistic.

4. Trust in God. Recognizing the existence of a power that can help us at the obstacles we face is a capital base that is quite effective in building optimism. Trust must be done simultaneously with efforts to improve our strategy and target achievements.

5. The last step we need to change our view of themselves and failure. We need more love and respect themselves. Do not we continue to ridicule themselves. "I am a foolish person, I can not do anything." This is not feel low attitude, but the attitude of the refuse that has been excess a bounty God to us.

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4 How to Treat Boredom

Do something continuously for long periods often lead to boredom. Even boredom can cause even someone lazy and stop doing things. This is clearly dangerous when attacking the boredom-side important in our lives such as jobs and relationships. Do not until the turbulence boredom, we do not work. Or, turbulence is also boredom, so stray relationship.

Here I give some tips that can treat boredom:

1. Do different
Do something in static, often cause boredom. To do it in a way that is different. Who knows with the way that different, other than boredom can be overcome, thus we can get better results.

2. Give appreciation
When we do something, try to make plan to what we do. Plan the form that we enjoy as a gift from what we do. For example, when we have to work during the week, we give one time to eat outside to the menu that we like to celebrate a week we have worked with both once.

3. Remember our vision and goals
Each of us do, have a vision and clear objectives, we certainly can do the most good. This is because the vision and goals to give the spirit. Therefore, if we start bored, try to remember the vision and goals that we can we achieve from what we do. After that we will certainly have additional spirit to fight again.

4. Remember our achievement
Achievements in certain jobs and relationships, they can give back to mind the spirit to do something, plus generate the desire to get other achievements.

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About Love

Love is when you remove feelings, appetite, and Romanticism in friendship. And find that you are still concerned about the man. Give someone all abashedly is not a guarantee that someone will return Excellent! Do not expect love again! Just wait, it will grow in the heart, but if it does not happen, I love the patch will grow in yourself.

Only 1 minute need to be able to love someone, you only need 1 hour to love someone and 1 day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Go for someone who made you smile because you only need to create a smile that dark day visible light.

There is a time in life when you feel very sick for someone and you hope he can take from your dreams and fight in real life! I dream what you dreamed want, go where you want to go, be what you want because you only have one life and one opportunity to do all the things that you want to do.

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Reaching Your Goals

Lots of times I kind of guffaw at all this goal setting stuff. People ask, "What are your goals?" and it seems like whoever can list the most goals wins. All they are doing is telling all the things they want but they may never get there. What people really need to ask is, "What will you do to make sure you reach your goals?" Having these goals will help motivate you to do something.
Anyway, let me tell you what this goal business is all about. It's actually pretty neat. There are three main steps to getting to where you want to go.

First, there's the dreams.

We do this all the time. However, sit down and write it out. By writing it you will get a better idea of where you really want to go. Think about how you would like to be. Imagine yourself at the end of the quarter or the end of the year or maybe in five years. What do you see? How do people see you? What are you doing? Are you successful? How do you know?

I'll give you an example. This is my first year away at college and away from home. I hope my first year is a good one. I really want to have as good an experience at college as possible. I'd like to do pretty well with grades and I really hope my parents are proud of me. I'm going to really miss my little sister. I hope a year from now she and I have as good a relationship as we do now. In fact, I hope I still have a good relationship with all my high school friends. I also hope to go on a Spring break someplace.

Well, that's kind of my dream. A dream is just that, it's a vision of the future, of how you see yourself in the future. Once you know the direction you want to go than you can begin working on some goals.

Second come the goals.

Goals are "wants". So are dreams, but goals are more specific. Look back at your dreams. Start a list of specific things you want. Be really clear what you mean. If you want to be rich, tell how much money you need to be rich. If you want good grades, tell what you mean by "good" grades. In fact, the more specific the goal is, the easier it will be to get it. Now there are some rules for setting goals, and here they are.

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Travel Human Life

Human life with the way life is. There are lectures, there is work, even in some unemployment. There are rich, there is a simple, not even a little of the poor. Street life is indeed a rate of capacity and capability of a servant of God has to give. Rich people in rich they are testing with, and poor people in poverty with the test. With all the different tests, it can be observed that the rate of capacity and ability of a servant also vary.

Many think that becoming rich is certainly enjoyable. But not too few people who had spent drawing his emergency profiteering from the poor. Worried that wealth will lose the fear, panic will worldly pleasures that can make them negligent of God, and worried when he died later, he will not leave the property that little amount. Emergency-emergencies such as those that ultimately make many people become rich stress.

Many, perhaps most or all of the poor, can hope to become rich. Can work, study, have the latest mobile phones, has a lot of money, always have new clothes and shoes, and all worldly pleasures, pleasures that it is actually all our friends in the tense moment in the life of this world. After that, they can no longer accompany us in the next life. Only a white shroud, from the majestic clothes The most illustrious, we will use to face God Almighty.

Do not think it has all the luxury we can make happy. Usually luxury that only the main capital of our sense of greed to monopolize ourselves. The most illustrious! Perhaps all that is not the best for us. Can only luxury that will make us forget the existence of God, the nature of the Hereafter, there will be no heaven and hell, so we will neglect our obligations as a nation of Prophet Muhammad.

Never condemn ourselves if we as a mission that is not. As can be, the less it may take us in the blessing, we bring in good, and we bring in tranquility. Can be a little charity is for us as slaves who always say thank God the Almighty in every situation.

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The influence of falling Bizarre Love To provide the Human Body

Love is strange to give effect in humans, scientists said. When you fall in love, the rate of hormone also affected the brain chemical us. Italian scientists conduct research on 12 men and 12 women who fall in love in the last 6 months. They found, the men have this hormone testosteron rate lower than the normal, while women have a higher rate of hormone instead usually.
"Men, in some cases, become more like women, and women become more like men," said Donatella Marazziti of the University of Pisa to the New Scientist magazine. "In the circumstances fall in love, the human body naturally seems to want to eliminate the differences between men and women, so that the relationship can survive. "
The study also shows enamored affect nervous circuits in the brain associated with social assessment of other people. This is a critical function, so that people are often the "love is blind." That is why men or women often turn a blind eye to errors or weaknesses partner. Research conducted in 1999 by Italian scientists, also shows the rate of serotonin in the brain so we lower the lovelorn. Serotonin, working to generate empathy, happiness, and knowledge.
The rate of serotonin is suspected with the same low rate serotonion people who suffer interference obsessive-kompulsif (GOK). GOK is a repetition of mind-thoughts, words or deeds that do not see baseless, and although we realize irasionalitas it, by the concerned can not be prevented or avoided.
So is understandable when you are in love and sometimes our minds so be it related to our partner, such as suspicious or jealous not baseless. The discovery of these discoveries, according to Professor Gareth Leng of the University of Edinburg, is to help us understand ourselves better. With the discovery yesterday, can be found at a new treatment for people who have problems in terms of building relationships with other people.

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The Amount of Power in Love

The strength of love is extraordinary. People who fall in love will be willing to give up anything for the love of it. Love makes everything beautiful, although must be passed by suffering.
The strength of love that makes the Bilal bin Rabbah prefer dried in the hot sand of the unbelievers shall return, although a protestor threw a stone large weigh up to nearly shatter the breast bone. With calm, he mentions the name his paramour,''Ahad, Ahad, Ahad.''Similarly, Abdurrahman bin auf, wealthy merchant friends dawn. He was willing to spend for the sake of jihad property fisabilillah. On the basis of all love.
Landscape also feel how it its terrible strength. They willingly emigrated to Medina with a walk-Based miles away, across the sands of the dry and hot sake of saving faith. Because the love of Allah SWT on, brave valorous with their rushing to go to the battlefield. Without fear, wealth, blood, and lives, they consistent Tebasan with the sword and a spear in order to prove a sincere love. Birth to the sacrifice of love and priorities.
Evidence to the love of God is not the only story of the past. The current can be brothers so that our love of God, even though the property and lives peril. I remember some of the stories our brothers in Medan that the Tsunami hear landslide in Aceh, they go directly to bring a bicycle and adequate supplies to rescue the remaining people. Once through the field may not follow the vehicle, they immediately bicycle pedal-Based miles to reach the disaster area, although none of the press cover it. There is even a volunteer from Jakarta who until after amputated hands, so take some bones exposed disease hands.
We may never see a traders, workers, drivers, who are very income barely even possible " did last " but they still survive in the work place only because of propaganda reasons. "Everyone is not that we manage the people here, who again?" They said. Even they may be able to move to a more "wet" and pursue wealth in other places. It seems there are other motivations in themselves, because other than the love of God.
If we truly love God, then God will love and help us. If we love God, we would willingly sacrifice everything with the sacrifice of the best. If the true love of Allah SWT, we will take the world is only moderate. Looking for property not for overstatement, but as a means of worship. If the true love of God, will we be rushing Wudhu when adzan is called by, because the fact is adzan In the call. If the true love of Allah SWT, on every third night we awake to the one prayer, although fatigue, drowsiness, cold and tan. If we are to love God, we will certainly concerned about the condition and welfare of people of faith.
Worship without love will be based on weight and feel useless. As a person who admitted to believe, we have Correct the love of God? Is the extent to which we exceed His love for us to the other?

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There is Strength in Love

There is strength in love. Who is able to give love
a strong person, because he can overcome his desire to be selfish.
There is strength in the laughter fun. Happy people laugh is a strong person, because he did not pitch with the challenges and protracted trial.
There is strength in the peace themselves. People who himself is fully peaceful, happy people are strong because it never affected and are not easily deceived.
There is strength in patience. Patient who is a strong person because he was able to bear all things, and he did not feel accountability moment.
There is strength in the Star. People charitable, which is a strong person because he did not hold the mouth and hands to do good for each other.
There is strength in the good. The person who is strong, because he can always afford to do that for the good of all people.
There is strength in loyalty. People who are strong, because it can overcome the desires and wishes with personal loyalty to God and his people.
There is strength in the disadvantaged. A gentle person who is strong, because he could not forbear to retaliate.
There is strength in the mastery of self. People who can control themselves is a strong person, because he can control all worldly appetite.
Review of a friend that you also have enough strength to overcome all the problems in this life? Wherever, and as hard as any. Because the trial will never be tolerated
beyond our strength.

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Throw All Your Strength Being the Best

In the process we as human life, even more for us who live in public and are struggling hard in creating the quality of life better, often in touch with other people, we have good or bad treatment from other people to self - we, on the other, or we ourselves against them and against their own. Attitudes so that it is normal and natural that it can happen in the relationship between human for whoever, whenever and wherever we are.
However, when we realize that as human beings have a healthy mind, the attitudes which can distinguish the good and bad, the positive and negative, which is constructive, and destructive, attitudes which can offend, hurt and attitudes which can be pleasant to others, which should be preserved, maintained and developed continuously.
As a man who can understand, recognize and can clear thinking, clearly we must be brave and choose determine the attitudes, with all the energy, time and mind to continue to develop themselves such that can be done in line principles of better and more positive.

Should also realize for every time and remind us to remain steadfast, brave, steadfast and zealouslyin the face of every problem, obstacles, difficulties that arise, both come from outside ourselves (external), the more that come from within ourselves (internal). We must have principles and have a strong specificity of the self.

It is not that easy to do, only through the process of training for the training, learning and learning in the real life practice. In time, of course we will be familiar to Stay steadfast face the challenging conditions of each and keep working hard Being the Best in any circumstances.

Thus, we not only shoot in the adult life, that the quality of life we will be better, more success | will take effect at once and also useful for other people.

Again. With all your strength. to be the best!

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Create a Life, Not Just Living

There are several steps to make our lives more meaningful. The first step is to increase the willingness to learn. The human mind has a remarkable, then use the mind to create a learning progress in life. We can learn from this, are learning to experience life, failure, day-to-day events, other people and so forth. Then continue to increase the willingness to learn.
The second step so that life is much more we try to do something closer to the dream that desirable. Work harder, more active or productive. This step is very effective in increasing the likelihood of getting money, property or anything that is valuable for people.
One of the things that ought to be guidelines that hard work is not solely pursue 5 P, the power, position, pleasure, Prestige (authority) and Prosperity (wealth). Any business that is oriented to five terms of the guarantee success or even the abundant, but does not guarantee a satisfying end.
To the four is "The Match King", Ivar nigly, CEO of the company's copyright, which also die suicide. Similarly, Leon Fraser, Chairman of the Bank of International Settlement, he was dead suicide. The sixth is Hupson Howard, CEO of the largest gas company in North America. But he psychopath and treated in mental hospital
until the end of his life. Arthur Cutton previous owner is the largest flour mills in the world, but he died in another country. Meanwhile, Albert Fall, the time he was president of the cabinet members
The United States. However, he died at his home in Texas when just out of prison.
In this world are not little people, which is very successful, but languish in recent years their lives. As if their lives will not mean very rich, although the previous highway. The best efforts can yield big success, but it does not mean the end of a life insurance as a full human meaning. Therefore, the next step that we should do is to work hard to do good.
The good is the ability to feel happiness and suffering of others. "

The hard work balanced with the good spirit that will generate higher to get more than what is needed. It pushed by the desire to share happiness with other people. In the end the good of the positive effect on the spirit of life, motivation, and progress and economic attitudes. James Allen, author book titled As a Man Thinketh said, "thoughts and deeds may not bring good results that bad; thoughts and deeds are not bad may bring good results."
By learning, work hard and do good then we will be able to create life that much more meaningful. Steps as described above proved very effective also make a positive impression about ourselves is not easily forgotten people. I am convinced that we still have many opportunities and potential for a life is valuable wherever and whatever we do.

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of life such as butterfly

Someone find the chrysalis animal swing. One day a small hole appears. He sat in a few hours to observe the prospective butterfly when he was struggling with the force himself to go through the small hole.

Then butterfly it stops making progress. He seems to have as his, and he can not further. Finally, these people decided to help her. He takes a scissors and cut the remaining bit of the cocoon.

Butterfly was out easily. However, he has a bulging body and small, wing-wing contract. These people continue to observe it because he hopes that, at a time, the wings, the wings will rise and widen so that they can sustain the body, which may be developed in line with time.

All never happened.

In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of his life in the surrounding fours with the body of bloat and wing-wing contract.

He never could fly.

That is not understandable from the good people and speed is that the cocoon and the struggle that the butterfly needed to pass through a small hole is the way to force the fluid from the body of the butterfly-wing in the wings such that he will be ready to fly so he obtain freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes the struggle is that we need in our life. If God let us live without obstacles struggle, it may be we would be crippling.

We may not be the proper tooth needed to sustain the ideals and expectations that we ask. We probably will not ever be "limited". Indeed, God Almighty and Merciful refused. We implore Strength ... And God gave us difficulties for our members.

We apply the policy ... And God gave us life Various issues to be resolved so that we grow wise.

We implore prosperity ... And God gave us brain and Energy to be used fully in achieving prosperity.

We implore courage ... And God gave Disaster and Danger to overcome.

We apply the Love ... And God gave us the problematic people to be saved and loved.

We Request Star / favor. And God gives us opportunities that alternately switch.

That's the way God We guide.

If I do not get that I want, that means I do not get all that I need?

Sometimes God does not give what we ask, but with God would provide the best for us, most of us do not understand know, do not even want to accept the plan of God, when in fact it is the best for us.

Stay fight ... and try to surrender ...

If it is the best then surely the Lord will give it to us.

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Rasulullah Loves

Those who are hard hearts will not know love. There is no iota of softness in themselves. Their hearts like the hard coral. Rigid mold, when both give and receive. Less sensitive feelings, thin ones again his humanity. Unlike the case with people who have Alloh Ta'ala a gentle, loving full-Star again. He called the owner of a decent heart full of love for the majestic. Exercise is covered with affection and driven by a fine.

Morals Rasululloh Shalallaahu Life is waiting for me sick but I'm still so exalted that motivate us to Learning its and nursing impression he steps. In this era now, I fall on the children and put them in the proper position is very rare that we find. Even their families are prospective leaders tomorrow, they are the embryo of the future and the dawn light, the local government later. Ignorance and hubris, shallow thoughts and the narrowness of his views lead to the loss of key opener to the hearts of toddlers and children. Meanwhile Rasululloh Shalallaahu sick but I'm still Life is waiting for me, the key is opening hearts in his hands and verbally. Try to see, Rasululloh Shalallaahu Life is waiting for me sick but I'm still always make children happy to him, they respect and glorify him. It is not surprising, because he put them in a high position.

Although the children's usual whine and complain and crotchety, but Rasululloh Shalallaahu Life is waiting for me sick but I'm still not angry, hitting, they snap and snarl. He still apply gentle and still behave calmly in the face of them.

Although the children's usual whine and complain and crotchety, but Rasululloh Shalallaahu Life is waiting for me sick but I'm still not angry, hitting, they snap and snarl. He still apply gentle and still behave calmly in the face of them.

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Parents love to his children

Through the love of parents, children get a first taste of security in a world that is completely foreign. The tie means the children receive in good condition and unprincipled. Children are very sensitive to feeling rejected. To feel secure children need to be embraced, Below, and was told that they let. Love to help any child that will happen.

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Love is....

Love is like a butterfly. Add be pursued, added run. But he left the aircraft, he will not come while you expect it. Love can be happy tale but also often make sad, but love the new value if given to someone who appreciate it. So do not hurry and select the best.

Love is not how to become a "perfect" for someone. But how to find someone who can help you become yourself.

Never "I love you" if you do not care. Do not ever discuss that did not exist. Never touch someone's life if it will destroy the heart. Do not ever contemplate eyes if all you do is lie.

This is a most unkind to do is to let other people fall in love, while you do not intend to catching ...

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Love is the best antidepressant

Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.

It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.

There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn't work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.

Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. It's part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is love when it's simply distraction and infatuation.

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