Rebuilding Optimism

Pessimism, both experienced by individuals or groups, must overcome. However, the firmness needed in the limit of a psychiatric problem, because pessimism awakened from the experience and we can not change things that have happened. Some there are things that might be done to rebuild our optimism:


1. Find positive things from the experience of the past, any as its bitter that experience. In failure, even though there are small successes is one slip, try and find success is grateful existence. This effort will treat at least some of the feelings of suffering that we destroyed. "But somehow I have failed" Discard far mind, because these thoughts will not help us in God's grace to reach the next. God will only add his favor on the people who want to give him the favor, although it slightly.
2. Up return target that we want to achieve. Do not make a habit of over-target. We must indeed optimistic, but we also need the ability to measure yourself. We also need to examine more charming way what we might do to achieve a certain target. The way the Iraqi agresor / imperialist U.S. may be used as an example. From the beginning of the Iraq says will not win in battle. But they only said "the U.S. will face difficulties when dealing with the army and the Iraqi people's resistance." Iraq also count in the field where it can provide a fierce resistance against the agresor / colonists are. Iraq may try to win the battle field in the opinion and the diplomatic world. This is an example of how one should define the target and the ability to see the limitations.

3. Broken into large target targets small success can be seen immediately. Often there are useful to see the success of short-term success of a long-term target. This will be the enthusiasm and optimism in ourselves. Of course we must continue to give what we get from achievements targets are small. Never thought in the heart, "Ah like this new, our target is still far away." This attitude is not to feel optimistic.

4. Trust in God. Recognizing the existence of a power that can help us at the obstacles we face is a capital base that is quite effective in building optimism. Trust must be done simultaneously with efforts to improve our strategy and target achievements.

5. The last step we need to change our view of themselves and failure. We need more love and respect themselves. Do not we continue to ridicule themselves. "I am a foolish person, I can not do anything." This is not feel low attitude, but the attitude of the refuse that has been excess a bounty God to us.

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4 How to Treat Boredom

Do something continuously for long periods often lead to boredom. Even boredom can cause even someone lazy and stop doing things. This is clearly dangerous when attacking the boredom-side important in our lives such as jobs and relationships. Do not until the turbulence boredom, we do not work. Or, turbulence is also boredom, so stray relationship.

Here I give some tips that can treat boredom:

1. Do different
Do something in static, often cause boredom. To do it in a way that is different. Who knows with the way that different, other than boredom can be overcome, thus we can get better results.

2. Give appreciation
When we do something, try to make plan to what we do. Plan the form that we enjoy as a gift from what we do. For example, when we have to work during the week, we give one time to eat outside to the menu that we like to celebrate a week we have worked with both once.

3. Remember our vision and goals
Each of us do, have a vision and clear objectives, we certainly can do the most good. This is because the vision and goals to give the spirit. Therefore, if we start bored, try to remember the vision and goals that we can we achieve from what we do. After that we will certainly have additional spirit to fight again.

4. Remember our achievement
Achievements in certain jobs and relationships, they can give back to mind the spirit to do something, plus generate the desire to get other achievements.

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About Love

Love is when you remove feelings, appetite, and Romanticism in friendship. And find that you are still concerned about the man. Give someone all abashedly is not a guarantee that someone will return Excellent! Do not expect love again! Just wait, it will grow in the heart, but if it does not happen, I love the patch will grow in yourself.

Only 1 minute need to be able to love someone, you only need 1 hour to love someone and 1 day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Go for someone who made you smile because you only need to create a smile that dark day visible light.

There is a time in life when you feel very sick for someone and you hope he can take from your dreams and fight in real life! I dream what you dreamed want, go where you want to go, be what you want because you only have one life and one opportunity to do all the things that you want to do.

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Reaching Your Goals

Lots of times I kind of guffaw at all this goal setting stuff. People ask, "What are your goals?" and it seems like whoever can list the most goals wins. All they are doing is telling all the things they want but they may never get there. What people really need to ask is, "What will you do to make sure you reach your goals?" Having these goals will help motivate you to do something.
Anyway, let me tell you what this goal business is all about. It's actually pretty neat. There are three main steps to getting to where you want to go.

First, there's the dreams.

We do this all the time. However, sit down and write it out. By writing it you will get a better idea of where you really want to go. Think about how you would like to be. Imagine yourself at the end of the quarter or the end of the year or maybe in five years. What do you see? How do people see you? What are you doing? Are you successful? How do you know?

I'll give you an example. This is my first year away at college and away from home. I hope my first year is a good one. I really want to have as good an experience at college as possible. I'd like to do pretty well with grades and I really hope my parents are proud of me. I'm going to really miss my little sister. I hope a year from now she and I have as good a relationship as we do now. In fact, I hope I still have a good relationship with all my high school friends. I also hope to go on a Spring break someplace.

Well, that's kind of my dream. A dream is just that, it's a vision of the future, of how you see yourself in the future. Once you know the direction you want to go than you can begin working on some goals.

Second come the goals.

Goals are "wants". So are dreams, but goals are more specific. Look back at your dreams. Start a list of specific things you want. Be really clear what you mean. If you want to be rich, tell how much money you need to be rich. If you want good grades, tell what you mean by "good" grades. In fact, the more specific the goal is, the easier it will be to get it. Now there are some rules for setting goals, and here they are.

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